July’s Position of the Month: Press the Flesh

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST
Certified Sex Therapist

July’s highlighted position of the month is the Press the Flesh.  This holiday weekend could be a great time to carve out some much-needed connection time with your partner.

While guidelines for masks continue to change, I would ask that you keep healthy sex practices in mind - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience!  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  As a reminder - a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  As I always recommend, begin this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).  

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Press the Flesh on a soft, well-supported surface, such as a bed, sofa, or (soft) flooring.  The penetrating partner will lean back, engaging their core muscles.  They will bend their legs (knees off the ground), to help support themselves.  The partner being penetrated will straddle their partner (facing one another and sitting in between their partner’s legs), while also leaning back and engaging their core.  This partner can also support themselves on their forearms (placing them behind their back).  The penetrating partner can also hold onto their partner’s legs for support (and to help gain thrusting momentum). 

Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for both.  Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their biceps, chest, abdominals, and hip flexors.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their deltoids, arms, and glutes.  Since this position leans into a tantric experience, it is recommended to try out for 5 to 10 minutes (potentially longer is able to) and work towards creating a slower, thymic thrust pace.  Again, since this is a slower moving (tantric-esc) position, be conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand.  Lubrication is always important for trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!

Here’s to trying out something new over the holiday weekend (or at some other point this month)!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 142 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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