September’s Position of the Month: Voluptuous V-Sit

WRITTEN BY KATIE MITCHELL, M.A., NCC, LPC, NCC
CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST

September’s highlighted position of the month is the Voluptuous V-Sit.  With COVID variants continuing to pick up speed, please keep healthy sex practices in mind - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience!  Another comfortable and sensual way to start a sexual experience is to take a shower together.  A sexual experience will release oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help to increase the emotional bond between you and your partner(s), plus it’ll also release stress and tension.  As is always recommended, begin any experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).  

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Voluptuous V-Sit on a soft, well supported surface, such as a bed or (soft) flooring.  Softness is especially important to remember as the penetrating partner will kneel and then sit back on their ankles, giving a deep stretch to their quads.  The partner being penetrated will face and straddle their partner, while holding onto their neck/shoulders for support.  Once feeling well supported, the partner being penetrated will pull their legs up into a V-shape (resting their calves on the outer part of their partner’s shoulders.  The partner being penetrated will continue to hold onto their partner’s neck and lean back throughout this position.  The penetrating partner will also help to support themselves and their partner by holding onto the upper portion of their partner’s back (so that their partner feels supported enough to lean back). 

Since this is a somewhat difficult position to get into, beginning with foreplay or another sexual position is highly recommended.  Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner will have most of the thrusting pace control.  A way that the partner being penetrated can contribute to the penetration experience is by working their pelvic floor muscle group.  Be sure to start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their biceps, lats, hip flexors, and quads.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their lats and abdominals.  It is recommended to try out this position for 1 to 5 minutes.  As is always recommended, be sure to have lubrication on hand.  Lubrication is always important for trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!

Here’s to carving out some time to try something new this September!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 132 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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