January Position of the Month: The Face Off
By: Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC, CST
Senior Lead Clinical and Sex Therapist
When it comes to maintaining a vibrant and connected relationship, intimacy is about more than just physical closeness—it’s about fostering emotional connection, trust, and communication. One position that embodies all these qualities is The Face Off. This seated, intimate position emphasizes eye contact, emotional closeness, and mutual pleasure, making it a fantastic choice for couples seeking a deeper connection.
Set-Up: In The Face Off, the penetrating partner sits on a sturdy surface—such as a chair, the edge of a bed, or a sofa—with their feet flat on the ground. The partner being penetrated will straddle them, facing forward (toward each other), and wraps their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist. Both partners will remain chest-to-chest, allowing for close physical contact and plenty of opportunities for eye contact and touch. This position encourages mutual engagement, with both partners contributing equally to the rhythm and movement.
Benefits:
1. Enhanced Emotional Intimacy: The Face Off promotes eye contact, which is a powerful way to enhance emotional intimacy and deepen the bond between partners. Being face-to-face allows for open communication, tender moments, and shared vulnerability.
2. Physical Closeness: The proximity of The Face Off makes it ideal for exploring sensual touch, from soft caresses to gentle kisses. This position creates a space where both partners can fully focus on each other.
3. Equality and Balance: Unlike some positions where one partner may feel more dominant, The Face Off encourages equal participation. Both partners can control rhythm and movement, fostering a sense of mutual respect and collaboration.
4. Versatility and Adaptability: The Face Off works well for couples of all body types and flexibility levels. It can be adapted by changing the height of the surface or adjusting the angle of the embrace to ensure comfort for both partners.
5. Slow, Sensual Connection: This position is perfect for couples who want to slow things down and savor the moment. The slower pace and full-body contact allow for heightened sensations and a deeper connection.
Recommendations for Success:
1. Choose the Right Surface: Select a sturdy and comfortable surface that supports both partners. A chair with no arms or the edge of a firm bed works well. Ensure the seated (penetrating) partner’s feet are flat on the floor for stability.
2. Start with a Comfortable Pace: The Face Off is about intimacy, not speed. Start slowly and focus on syncing your movements, maintaining eye contact, and exploring each other’s touch.
3. Experiment with Angles: Adjust your body positions slightly to find what feels best for both partners. Tilting the seated (penetrating) partner’s hips or leaning slightly forward or backward can create different sensations.
4. Incorporate Touch and Connection: Use this opportunity to explore full-body touch. Caress each other’s back, shoulders, or face, and take time to kiss.
5. Maintain Communication: Open communication is key. Check in with your partner to ensure they are comfortable and enjoying the experience. Positive feedback and mutual consent make for a more fulfilling connection.
The Face Off is a beautiful blend of physical intimacy and emotional connection, making it an excellent choice for couples who want to strengthen their relationship both inside and outside the bedroom. Its emphasis on eye contact, touch, and equal participation encourages partners to focus on one another and build trust. Whether you are reconnecting or simply seeking new ways to enhance your intimacy, The Face Off offers a unique and rewarding experience. Why not try it out this January and see how it can bring you and your partner closer together this new year?