September Position of the Month: Laid Back

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist and Sex Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

*As usual, it is recommended that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual engagement until both of you are feeling up to par!  And, as a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable and in the mood, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  In addition to keeping healthy sex practices in mind, I also recommend beginning any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury. *

September highlighted position of the month is the Laid Back.  Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Laid Back on a soft supportive surface (carpeted floor, sofa, or bed).  The partner being penetrated will start in the on-top position (think cowgirl), while their partner lays on their back facing upward.  Once penetration has occurred, the partner being penetrated will lean back supporting themselves with their elbows on the supportive surface.  The penetrating partner will propel their glutes and hips upward to create the thrusting motion.  The partner being penetrated will also slide their hips back and forth to add to the thrusting experience.  In this position, the penetrating partner can gaze at their partner during the sexual engagement, and can add to their partner’s sexual experience by including digital play (finger stimulation).  As always, once penetration occurs, be mindful of effective communication; take the time to verbally and nonverbally communicate with another what is pleasurable or what needs adjusting.  Gently guiding your partners hand is also an easy way to make adjustments nonverbally. 

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their abdominals and glutes.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their deltoids, back extensors, core, and glutes.  It is recommended to try this position out for 5-10 minutes. 

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another this September.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 324-325 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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