October Position of the Month: Trick or Treat

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist and Sex Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

October’s highlighted position of the month is the Trick or Treat!  The Trick or Treat is a penetrative version of “69,” so this might be a fun, hilariously interesting position to try out.  This is also a great position for minor anal play, like fingering or rimjobs – butt (pun intended), be sure to ask ahead of time, instead of surprising a partner with this experience.  Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Trick or Treat on a soft supportive surface (carpeted floor or bed – trying this out on a sofa may not provide enough room).  The partner being penetrated will lie on their back, while the penetrating partner straddles in the opposite direction.  The penetrating partner will support themselves by using their knees and leaning on their forearms.  The partner being penetrated will then wrap their legs around their partners waist, so that their pelvis can be lifted for more efficient entry.  As always, once penetration occurs, be mindful of effective communication; take the time to verbally and nonverbally communicate with another what is pleasurable or what needs adjusting.  Take the time to get in rhythm with one another before thrusting with any amount of power, as this position requires an unusual penetration angle.

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their abductors, biceps, core, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core and glutes.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1-5 minutes. 

*As usual, it is recommended that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual engagement until both of you are feeling up to par!  And, as a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable and in the mood, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  In addition to keeping healthy sex practices in mind, I also recommend beginning any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury. *

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another this October.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found at the following link.

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